When a Man Has Two Wives

When a Man Has Two Wives

"When a man has two wives, one loved and the other hated, and they both give him sons, but the firstborn is from the hated wife." (Deut.21:15)

Many have asked, “Is it really wrong to marry two wives? Did the Bible forbid it? Can a polygamous man make heaven?” Some argue that several biblical figures—Abraham, Jacob, David, Solomon—had multiple wives. Others reason that since the instruction about being “the husband of one wife” was given to bishops and deacons (1 Tim. 3:2, 12), a regular man is exempt.

But our text gives insight: “When a man has two wives, one loved, the other hated.” That single line reveals the burden of polygamy. Just as no man can serve two masters, no man can divide his affection equally. One will be elevated, another neglected. Jesus reminded us that “in the beginning it was not so.” God’s ideal has always been one man, one woman—a union reflecting Christ and His Church (Eph. 5:32).

Brief Reflection
God’s design for marriage is not about what is permissible but what is purposeful. Polygamy complicates affection, loyalty, and harmony. Christ’s model calls us to unity, not division.

Prayer
Lord, help me to value Your design above human reasoning. Give me grace to walk in wisdom, love, and purity. Let my life and relationships reflect Christ and His Church. Amen.

Have a fruitful day,
(Dr.) Emmanuel Okoro
(aka Dr. Lift)

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