Don't marry for wealth

Don't marry for wealth

"This is a very good deal for us--these people are very wealthy with great herds of livestock and we're going to get our hands on it. So let's do what they ask and have them settle down with us." Everyone who was anyone in the city agreed with Hamor and his son, Shechem; every male was circumcised." (Gen.34.23-24) 

For many people, marriage is transactional. They said to themselves "this is a very good deal for us". They were not looking at what they were bringing to the table but what they were going to be taking away. 

And then they added, "These people are very wealthy". This is a blinding factor for most people. They refuse to see the person for who the person is but for what the person has. The person's wealth now becomes a blindfold over their minds and eyes such that they cannot see his or her faults, failings and faltering. 

"we are going to get our hands on it" they opined. Greed has replaced give. When we love we give but that is not the case here. Since love is not the factor but greed is, they want to take. In every marriage relationship, love gives but greed takes. 

They wanted their wealth so badly, they said to themselves, "So let's do what they ask and have them settle down with us." This is the kind of marriage that one gets into and three months down the road, there is a divorce. Why? It was all bout the Benjamins - the wealth. And this led to their agreeing to circumstance every male in the community. This weakened them and made them vulnerable and susceptible to the attack that came from Simon and Levi. 

Don't marry for wealth but from wealth. Recognise your own worth. Know what it is you are bringing to the table. God put something in you, develop it and share it with your partner. Remember, you are worthy, you are enough. 

Good day,
Have a great day today, 
Emmanuel Okoro 
(aka Mr. Lift)

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